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Wanted Perfect Mother

November 9, 2005

Are you kidding? If they are perfect, then they are not mothers. They are saints. The relationship between a daughter and a mother can be loving or malevolent; harmonious or hostile and sweet or contentious. Let’s accept it. Who can be like her, but the daughter and who can be like the mother but her own daughter? There is a little bit of our mother in us, daughter or son. If you feel that it is not easy to to bring up a mother, try looking into these:

1. your mother’s purpose

If your mother is anxious and controlling, it could be that during your age, she committed a mistake that almost ruined her life. She does not want you to suffer the same fate.

2. don’t think that your mother is all-powerful A strong-willed mother may put a facade that may be necessary in order to impress invulnerability during family crises. It would help to know the difficulties that she is experiencing in order to understand that sometimes her short temper has very little to do with you. That inside her bedroom, she is not really the strong woman that you think her to be. Did you remember the time when you notice that it seems you hardly exist to her. This must be the time when her emotional burden was the heaviest.

3. Look for similarities between you and your mother

What are her values,fears, political ideas, types of friends, mannerisms, gestures, physical features? Now that you are mother, do you feel the same way when your daughter comes late in the evening or is around with some friends you do not approve?

4. A mother is always a mother Do not think that she feels her responsibility ends when you have a family of your own. Even if she believes that you have your own lives to live, she thinks that it would not hurt if from time to time, she would offer some advice. It is not mother’s day but 24 hours is a mother’s unpaid workshift.


Children have more need of models than critics-Joubert

October 9, 2005

Some parents think that they are encouraging their children by challenging them to excel better than their friends, classmates and neighbors. Their favorite expressions are: Why can’t you be…How come your sister/cousin/friend….? Some are challenged and they strive to make their parents happy. Some don’t bother. Some rebel.

With other people as a yardstick for the people’s accomplishment or well-being, the foundation of life becomes weak. Take for example these people:

1. The Friends’ Friend-The individual evaluates his entire world based on what others think about him. He has to gain approval no matter if he buys the friends with gifts or … (more…)

Everything is a mirror that reflects your attitude

October 5, 2005

She occupied the smallest cubicle in that office and yet, her surroundings were always aglow with beauty and harmony no matter how simple the office decors were.

People come by to greet and chat with her even for a few minutes. Unconsciously, they wanted her radiance good to rubbed off on them.

She was the employee that a boss can rely on especially during stressful project launching and implementation.

She was the employee that everyone can run to when they are pressured to beat the deadline.

No, she is not a superwoman. She has also her fits and disruptions that come from within (work stress) and without (family pressures, social world, relationships).

She recognizes the fact that many fall on the wayside because physical and mental healthwise, they do not have the stamina to stay in the life’s constant running.

She may not have eliminated stressfull situations but she counteracted these with her positive outlook. Gaining self-confidence on the thought that people seek her, her appreciative thoughts reflect on her simple office furnishings and sustain them in a state of loveliness.

A year after, when I visited the company, she was no longer there. The husband petitioned her to go to Australia.

There is a new employee occupying her desk. She merely glanced and proceeded with her work.

The furnishings and the cubicle looked sad and shabby, not because they were dilapidated but because the glowing harmony

and pleasantness are no longer there. The source is no longer there.

















Radiate and Attract

October 4, 2005

The current Miss International, Precious Lara Quigaman when asked, HOW DO YOU STAY BEAUTIFUL? said:

By exuding a kind and warm personality and attitude to everyone.

In this way, I can be beautiful to them because they’ll like me. After all, being beautiful is not just about looking good in the outside, its also about showing our goodness in the inside.


Some people are not aware that they are using the law of radiation and attraction by merely maintaining a sunny disposition. A friend of mine is not pretty but she got a lot of male admirers that when we attended gatherings, men swarmed like bees wherever she went. She radiated with optimism and contentment that if you do not know the life’s trials she went thru, you would say she is a good actress. But she is not. Her positivism is infectious. Her self-confidence can just lift you to higher levels of expectations.

As expected when you climb the ladder of success or popularity, detractors come by the dozen. But affected, she is not. She likened herself to a moon which continues shining in the dark while dogs continue howling all night.